A very dear, lifelong friend died of bone cancer. It's a very painful disease, and he was suffering in every hour. Even in his suffering, however, he reached for a higher consciousness, a change in his energy - and this sometimes astonished me, honestly. Not long before he died he told me that he'd had a bad day, but that I'd sent him a book many years ago that was helping him now. I was surprised - I'd long ago forgotten sending him the book. In it, he said, there's a question he now uses almost every hour. "Can you endure it?" Instantly, I knew this was from the writings of a wise man, Ajhan Chah. His way of helping others who came to … [Read more...]
Leader of Your Life – Using Herbal Remedies for Illness
Over 40% of the US Population Now Uses Herbal Remedies The National Institutes for Health reports that about 40% of Americans now use herbal remedies for illness. Why the switch back to natural medicines? People cannot afford to access medical care. Prescription drugs are sometimes quite expensive to obtain. People are interested in returning to a more natural way of treating illness and disease. Herbal remedies can work to better your health without the often harsh side effects of prescription drugs. Nearly half of the drugs approved by the Food and Drug Administration come from herbs and plants anyway. I've used herbal … [Read more...]
What To Do When Grief and Loss Overwhelm You
If you live long enough, you'll face a time when grief and loss overwhelm you. One of my long-time business mentors received a terrible shock. His oldest son, who was in his late 40's, was found dead in his car at the side of the interstate. The son and his family live far away, across the country from my mentor. Apparently, his son had started feeling bad while driving, pulled over, called his wife to say he'd be OK but felt bad and had pulled over for a moment. Later, he was found dead in his car. When something happens to us that is without warning, totally unexpected, and is as final as death we react with shock and disbelief. We … [Read more...]
Do You Add to Calmness or to Drama?
It's Easy to Fall Into The Drama Ditch I think the bottom line most critical skill for us as leaders of our lives and models for our children is to keep our ground no matter what is going on around us or within us. Think back to the last time a frustrating or scary situation happened to you. Did you get completely knocked off your perch by some piece of drama that touched your life? Or maybe the life of a child or parent or spouse or friend? The truth is that we will always have some type of drama or upsetting situation touching our business or our personal lives. It is not the situation, it is how we react to the situation that frames how … [Read more...]
How To Become A Leader For Yourself and Others
Do you think about how to become a leader? Have you heard that saying, "How we do anything is how we do everything?" For years I didn't understand it - until I started working with clients who wanted to perform better in their career or improve their parenting skills. I quickly noticed that often what we say we believe in (our values) don't match up with our behaviors. Here are a few examples. Statement: I know time is important and I value everyone's time. Behavior: Constantly being 5 to 15 minutes late meeting friends, family members, or children. Statement: I really want to move up in my career. Behavior: Taking sick leave to … [Read more...]